Self awarenes
Self aware is being in touch with the feeling, thought and experiences within you and how they affect you and maybe others. It is the art of introspection. Some of the ways of introspection is asking yourself these questions.
Who are am I?
Where am I coming from?
Where am I currently?
What have I come to do?
What is my destination (where am I going?)
What is my talent and gifting?
What is my purpose, assignment and destiny?
Where do I see/ imagine myself 5yrs then 10 years?
Being true to self is understanding whom you are inside the body shell you carry? (Body, soul, spirit)
What do you feel and think about yourself?
(Body, like skin, height) and deep inside, what do you think about work? Life? Friends? Family?
To be aware (know) anything, you read, study and understand which is out of knowledge. Therefore read/study you- your motives, feelings, character, desires. It also requires you to know how others perceive you, it is an endless journey even after death.
The journey of self- discovery is deep
know your unique personality type (temperament), do not try to be so and – be who you are each personality is uniquely used differently. These means we are different, each with their own uniqueness. Know your gifts/talents (strengths and ability). Your weakness and where you fail most, what easily excites you or annoys you. Finally know your energy cycles and levels. – Triggers, which days are you very energetic and what time you are very productive.
Know your life stage. – be positive and start embracing not fighting.
Know your limitations – only God can do everything. You are not God accept your humanness. Know your hot buttons – how are they pushed and also deal with your unfinished business.
BE USEFUL AND RAISE YOUR VALUE AND IMPORTANCE
Where are you staying (parents’ home, a relative, friend, roommate, work, School College)
How do you contribute and make your presence felt?
You can be in a place and when you leave your absence is felt
We all have something we can give… Give back even to the universe.
This can only happen if you know whom you are, otherwise as mentioned self- awareness
If you are not proud of whom you are, work to be the dream you.
Though there are things you cannot change but there is so much you can change at the same time. Identify both and work on what can be worked on.
What you cannot change accept and use it for the good, change it to be positive and to work for the good instead of against you.
The rest purpose to work on and change for you and others in your life. The positive changes and steps will surely benefit you and those around you will directly or indirectly also benefit.
Allow me to mention something about relationships. The most important relationship is that personal relation with God your creator. Without that you are lost. Sometimes things fail, plans fail and our human capacity is challenged beyond us. Where do you turn to in those moments? When you have a personal relationship with God, then you are at another level and you have a place to run to. Align your heart, mind and actions to be in His will, it is true God can guide, lead and help us at all times.
A relationship with God is truly transforming and fulfilling; please if you do not have one, I urge you to seriously consider one.
The second relationship to work is a relationship with yourself. You are the only one who never leaves since birth. Others come and go but you are tied to yourself, please be nice to you. Be loyal to yourself and maintain the loyalty
Keep the focus to your purpose and calling and you will not fail
Keep the priorities right according to your level and stage in life. Each stage has its priorities.
Keep yourself on the frontline meaning be your first priority, when you are good other will get the benefits.
Keep your identity, this is in relation to whom you are, are you in touch with self?
The third level of relations are the relations with others.
Establish clear boundaries in all areas of all your relations. This keep you safe from abuse and manipulations. Stand on what you believe and what is right and productive and let it be clear to those who encounter you. Timeline here are important. The earlier the declaration the better. Others when brought about latter is seems like an afterthought or a by the way and not a stand. Without boundaries you are an open field, set boundaries, people accept and respect boundaries when they are set and identified. Boundaries can be on various areas which may show values, respect for time and time management, respects for personal items and space. Boundaries in the area of one’s faith is too important to be taken lightly. Like when you say am a born again Christian, I do not use alcohol and the like.
